I talk a lot about being selfish and how it’s actually good for you. I still believe that is true.
Saying no is a very powerful thing and something you should be doing if you are trying to improve your life.
I don’t know what your goals are. Everyone has different goals. My goals change all the time, but when I’m focused on something, I really try to do whatever it takes to make it happen.
Sometimes “doing whatever it takes” means saying no to people. And I’m okay with that.
Will you hurt someone’s feelings if you say no to them? Or if you decline their invitation? Or if you tell them you’re busy and have to do something else? You might.
But does it matter? Not really. In the long run, people will either understand or they never will.
Here’s what I know from my own experience.
- When you’re selfish and focused on yourself, you get more done.
- When you get more done, you improve your life.
- When your life improves, people usually want to know what you did.
- When people want to know what you did to improve your life, they’ll ask “How did you do that?”
That’s where I want you to be in life.
I want you to be at the point where you’ve done something so amazing with your life – whatever it may be – that your peers, friends, family and even random people ask you “How did you do that?”
To get to the “How Did You Do That?” point you may been a combination of the following:
- Pushing yourself.
- Doing the shit no one else is willing to do.
- Leaving your comfort zone.
- Trying to do something, that everyone else thinks is impossible.
- Saying no to people.
- Not giving up.
Do you know how many people have told me I can’t do something?
Do you know how many people try to downplay on my goals and dreams?
What’s funny is after you improve your life, people wonder how you made that happen?
- People ask me how I started a business. They want to know the secret. (Answer: There is no secret. It’s called putting in the work)
- People ask me how I got in shape. They want to know what I ate. How often I worked out. (Answer: I stopped eating the shit you eat, and I worked out a lot).
- People ask me how I know the people I know. They want me to introduce them. (Answer: Maybe, but what value can you add to their lives? All you want to do is get something for nothing).
- People talk about my life like I got lucky. (Answer: It’s not luck. Unless you call making sacrifices and doing all the work you’re not willing to do, luck).
Some people have no idea. They still don’t believe what I’m doing with my life is possible. They’ll never understand. But for the people that do have an idea of what you’ve accomplished, they ask “How did you do that?”
Whether you want to help people or not is up to you. But you really can’t help anyone until you’ve helped yourself.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be the guy asking someone else “How did you do that?” I want to be the guy that gets asked that question.
My Final Thoughts
We all come into this world the same. No one is any better or any smarter than anyone else. What you do with your life is up to you. If you realize that, then you can pretty much do anything. But you can only do it if you want to.
If you want to party…if you want to stay at home and watch tv…if you want to sleep in…if you want to go on vacations…if you care too much about what everyone thinks that it affects your decision making…then you will never get where you want to be.
Anyone can get to the point where someone else asks: “How did you do that?” But there’s a reason why only some people get asked that question.
Be Bold. Be Alpha.