Do you want create an impression that makes people say “Wow, who is this guy??” Do you want to create a long lasting impression that makes people think of you highly?
If you answered yes, then I suggest you keep reading.
People never really think about these simple things like making a really great first impression. They just think if they don’t look stupid or uninterested they’ll make a good impression. But good = average. We want to be great!
So how do you make a great first impression? Let’s go through the do’s and don’ts of an how to meet someone.
- Don’t just enter a room and look lost or afraid
- Don’t just introduce yourself and say nice to meet you.
- Don’t talk about your problems (or complain in general)
- Don’t talk about the weather or the traffic or any other fluff
If you’re boring or just talking about yourself, the only thing people will remember you as, is the guy they DON’T want to talk to again.
Think Back To The Past
Do you remember when you met someone and you just wanted to run away? Maybe they were boring, weird or just negative. Maybe it was completely awkward.
Either you answered yes or no to the question above.
- If you answered yes, then you know exactly what it’s like. And you should never want to be like that.
- If you answered no, it’s because you had no reason to ever remember this interaction or you didn’t want to associate with this person ever again.
Do you see why this is bad?
Do This Instead
Create an impression that makes people say “wow” or “what a great guy!” or “I got to make sure I keep in touch with this guy”. This type of impression is what you should be striving for.
- Do smile when you greet someone
- Do remember someone’s name when you meet them and call them by it
- Do try to start a conversation with the person you meet
- Do get personal with them
- Do let the person share their interest and story
- Do listen and ask follow-up questions with enthusiasm
- Do try to find ways to connect
The goal of creating great impression is for people remember you. It’s so people think highly of you and say good things about you to others. It makes people want to get to know you and be around you.
Ultimately, creating a great great impression will result in more people wanting to get to know you and more people wanting to help you.
Imagine a life where people hear your name and their faces light up and they can’t stop saying glowing things about you. Or imagine you calling someone you met and they welcome your call with open arms and are so glad to be talking to you.
This is what creating a great impression does.
It opens doors and opportunities for you. You become a dynamic individual with a great personality.
The Game Plan
Step 1: Smiling and greet – introduce yourself and listen to the other person say their name and say “nice to meet you (name)”
Step 2: Give a compliment or ask a general question – “that’s a really cool (insert something)!”, “that’s a really nice (insert something)”, or “how’s it going…this place is (make an observation)!” Notice how everything is a little enthusiastic with the exclamation mark?
Step 3: Listen to what they say, then reply back sharing additional information and opening the conversation to share a little information that is more personal than just a high level answer like “I’m doing good”. Talk about something more interesting like why you’re doing good or what you’re happy about (with emotion)
Step 4: Go with the flow. Smile. Listen. Nod your head in agreement. Share some info and build rapport. Be enthusiastic.
Step 5: When possible try to offer something – it can be as simple as a recommendation that might be helpful to the other person or a contact or suggest meeting up again. “Yea! There’s this really great restaurant at…” or “You know, I know someone that you might want to talk to…” or “We should get together sometime and talk about this some more!”
The Keys for Success
The key is to be excited and enthusiastic when you meet someone. You will come off as warm and friendly. Then develop some sort of connection with them and offer them something (anything) so they have this idea that you can help them in some way (could be as simple as making a person feel good).
Everyone is a little selfish. They want to talk about themselves and always want to know “what’s in it for me.” If you can give them the ability to talk about themselves make them feel important, you are going to create a good impression. Then when you try to offer them something, they like you even more.
Developing relationships and a network that can help you is much more vital to long-term success than just meeting a bunch of people that will forget you.