This post goes out to all the guys and girls out there that just don’t know when to shut up.
Now, I can probably be nicer and say some of you guys don’t know when to just be quiet. Either way – there are many people in this world that are making themselves look bad because they don’t understand when to talk and when to not talk.
Let’s just jump into all the times you shouldn’t talk and then we can expand on them.
Shut Up When…
All you’re going to do is complain.
Misery loves company. So if you want to complain, complain to people that want to listen to it. Not everyone does. So shut up if all you want to do is complain to everyone.
- No one likes a person that whines and complains. It solves nothing. Yes, it might make you feel better but it just annoys everyone else.
If you are going to complain, at least have a good solution to whatever it is you’re complaining about.
You Want to Gossip
If you want to be a gossip girl, just don’t. You might think you’re having fun talking about people behind their back and spreading rumors but it’s just going to come back and bite you in the ass. It’s not worth it.
Everyone that gossips or tells little secrets always think they can trust the person they are telling. But let’s be serious. You and I both know that when someone tells someone else a secret, it’s more likely that that secret is going to be told to someone else.
You Are Talking Because You Think You Need to Say Something
Too often people think they need to say something when nothing needs to be sad. Just because there is silence does not mean everyone is waiting for you to talk.
Be smart and ask yourself if you will actually add any value by talking. If not, shut the hell up.
You Think You Need to Elaborate on a Yes or No Answer
Sometimes people ask you questions. And the question really just requires a yes or no answer.
All too often people think they need to provide additional context to the answer or background information. Don’t be an idiot like this. If people want a detailed answer they will ask for it.
You Like to Hear Your Own Voice
No one likes to admit this but there are some of you that like to talk because you just want to hear your own voice. You have nothing of value to say.
If this is you, stop.
You Think Talking Will Make You Look Important
Many people think they need to say something so they can get noticed or looked important, but what they fail to realize is that it actually matters what you say. Just saying something is not enough.
If you have nothing good to say but a dumb ass comment or a stupid ass question that adds no value, shut up.
When Everyone Looks Disinterested
Learn how to read people’s body language when you are talking. If they are disinterested and turned off by what you are saying, it’s best just to stop talking. If they look like they want to leave when you keep talking, stop.
You’re not making any friends by talking to people that don’t find what you’re saying interesting.
Talk When You Need to Talk
A lot of people talk too much. Don’t be one of them.
Knowing when to talk and when to shut up and listen or just be silent is key. You don’t need to talk all the time. Sometimes other people just want you to listen.
There are instances where saying less is more.
- Talk when you need to talk.
- Don’t keep talking and dragging shit on when it’s unnecessary
- Say something when you have something to say
- People do notice if you say stupid shit
- Be able to read if people are interested in what you are saying
Don’t be the weird guy that doesn’t know when to shut up. It will affect your social life and your career.
If you talk too much or say a lot of stupid shit, no one will want to hang out with you and everyone will think you’re stupid (even if you aren’t). You might mean well by talking but no one cares. When you annoy someone by talking too much, it’s GAME OVER.
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