The ego is a very powerful thing. It can help you and it can hurt you. It can be the reason why you dig and dig and go and go and it can be the reason why you do nothing at all.
There are things in this world we really want to do but we don’t do them. But why?
You might want to –
- Talk to a hot girl
- Ask for help with your career
- Learn a new skill
- Try out some new exercises
- Go eat at a restaurant alone
- Talk to random strangers
- Speak up at work
- Ask for a promotion or a raise
- Start a website
- Make a youtube video
- Share a secret
I really don’t know what it is you want to do. But I know there is something. I’ve been there. I’m still there. We all have these moments in our life.
We want to do something so bad. But we don’t do it. Why??
We don’t do it because we let our EGO get in the way. We want to believe we’re perfect as we are. But no one is perfect.
No one is perfect.
- You’re not perfect if you have more money than you know what to do with.
- You’re not perfect if you in the best shape of your life.
- You’re not perfect if you have your dream job.
- You’re not perfect if you’re in a relationship.
No one is perfect. But we can try to be.
We can try to be the best person we can be. And sometimes becoming your best self requires putting your ego aside.
Why We Care So Much
We care so much about bruising our ego because we don’t want to feel embarrassed or look like idiots. We want to be perfect. We want to be the best. And sometimes being perfect means not doing things we want to do out of fear of failure.
I’ve been there plenty of times in the past. I haven’t done things I know I could have and should have done all because I didn’t want to hurt my own ego. Looking back on this though, I realize I limited my growth. I limited my growth not only from opportunities to succeed but opportunities to learn when I failed or things didn’t go my way.
Personally, it has never really been about anyone else but I always made it about someone else. What I mean is, I used other people as an excuse. Like “oh there’s people around. They will see me fail.” or “No they don’t want to help, why bother asking.” See what I did there? I make it about other people when it was really about me. I didn’t want to believe that I was the reason why I wasn’t do something.
Don’t Take It Personal
Your ego is a sensitive creature. It can be super strong and confident or it can be really weak and soft. You actually have the option to decide which it will be.
My advice to you is to not take things so personal. Don’t be so sensitive about the outcomes of things. This way you don’t get sad and hurt when things don’t go your way.
- People don’t have to help you
- People don’t have to be nice to you
- People don’t have to respond to you
- Things don’t always go your way
- You might not win every time you play
- You might not always succeed
Chances are your life will NOT be perfect. If you can accept this then you can begin to realize it’s okay to fail.
You Stop You
I wish I could tell everyone to just stop shooting yourself in the foot. Stop limiting yourself and just do whatever you want to do! Take chances! Try! Fail! Try again! You will succeed keep at it!
But that doesn’t work for a lot of people. Everyone puts up these barriers and limiting beliefs to keep themselves safe. No one wants to feel rejection. No one wants to feel like a loser. No one wants to know they aren’t perfect.
I know I sure as hell don’t. And it upsets me each time I feel these things. But it also motivates me. It lights a fire for me to prove to people I’m better than what they think I am. And you need to start doing the same thing.
Anything is possible (within reason). And I’m here to try to get that through to you.
Don’t Let the Ego Get in The Way of Success
Be willing to be vulnerable. Be willing to fail. It’s going to help you out a lot more in life than living in a comfortable bubble of only knowing what you know.
If you always let your ego get in the way – your life will be exactly what it is today, for the rest of your life. Is that what you want? Do you want to work the same job you have today, 15 years from now? Do you want to keep making the same excuses you are making 10 years from now? Do you still want to be out of shape and feeling sorry for yourself a few years from now? Do you really want to be coming back to To Be Alpha every night trying to find inspiration and advice when you’re 40? I sure hope not!
This is why you must let go of the ego. Stop being so critical of yourself and your life. You don’t have to be perfect.
Just Be Alpha. And go do what you want to do and see what happens!