It’s time to be honest with yourself. There are a lot of misconceptions about being alpha and today we are going to briefly discuss another one.
A lot of guys think BALLS is all you need in life. If you have BALLS you take risks. And when you take chances you win. I even talk about balls in ranking the factors that will get you laid. But balls aren’t everything.
Balls give you the ability to do things that ordinary people probably wouldn’t do. It usually goes like this.
Beta male: “Damn I wish I could…ask for help.”
Alpha male: “You can man. You just have to suck up your ego and do it.”
Beta male: “Nah, I’ll just get rejected.”
Alpha male: “Grow some balls man!”
Then the beta males just sulks. He doesn’t have the balls to do anything. Feels like shit. Goes home. And accepts life as is.
BUT BALLS AREN’T EVERYTHING
Even an alpha male with the biggest balls in the world can still fail more than he succeeds.
Here’s the thing. Balls give you the opportunity to succeed because it gives you the confidence to take chances. But balls themselves is not the answer to succeeding in life.
Balls only get you so far. If you want to succeed in anything – whether it be business, your career, girls, life – you need to know how to interact with people. You need to know how to build connections.
Building relationships. Connecting with people.
If you don’t know how to interact with people, if you’re socially awkward or weird. Then balls won’t get you very far. You must learn to talk to people. Communication skills are the key to succeeding in life.
Not a lot of people tell you the importance of communication skills. They just tell you go after what you want. Keep trying! Go go go! But seriously, they provide no advice on what you really need to do.
Why Communication Skills are Important
Where do I start?
You need to be able to communicate your thoughts and ideas with people. You want to give the impression that you’re smart and you know what you’re doing. Not only that but you want to build a real relationship with the people you work with so they are on your side.
The secret to being promoted and move up in the world is not how hard you work or how much you know. The secret is having the right people on your side. You get the right people on your side through connecting with them.
Some of you guys want to be a ladies man. And if you know anything about anything – all the self help guys with dating and relationships tell you to just go up to a bunch of girls and eventually you’ll get what you’re looking for. Wrong.
Again, balls only get you to the front door. It’s the communication skills and the ability to connect and not be a socially awkward creep that will close the deal.
This is very generalized but honestly the secret to succeeding is the ability to connect. That means you need really good communication skills. But to get to the point that you can even interact with people requires balls. So where does that leave us?
Success is a combination of balls and communication skills? Pretty much.
You can work hard your whole life and never succeed. You can try and try and try and barely get to where you want to go. But if you try and you connect you will get where you want to go a lot quicker.
Favors. Networking. Jobs. Introductions. Girls. Help. Everything. It all depends on your ability to connect.
Balls can only take you so far. Don’t rely on balls for everything or you’re a sucker.