You can become alpha. But first you need to know what an alpha male is.
The problem most men and women that want to be alpha face is a lack of knowledge and guidance on the traits and characteristics necessary to become alpha.
Here we simplify everything for you with guidelines to being alpha.
What Are Alpha Male Characteristics?
Alpha males know they are the shit. Whether they are or not to someone else doesn’t really matter. Alpha males believe in themselves and aren’t afraid to show it physically, vocally or through action and thoughts.
When’s the last time you saw an alpha male that was afraid or second guessing themselves? Usually they just go for it because they are that confident.
But If they Fail…
Have Intangibles (Mentally Tough)
When I say intangibles, I’m talking about the right mentality. Alphas always think they are a winner. Sure they might fail once in awhile, but they get over it really fast and just move on.
They know that they will eventually succeed if they keep trying. Alpha males do not give up just because they failed once
Alpha males don’t like to lose. They want to win.
- They don’t just want to win, they want to beat the hell out of you and make you remember they won.
- Everything they do in life is a competition. They want to be the best. Competition drives them. But they don’t do it to show off. It’s because they truly believe they should be winning all the time.
Make competition your friend. It will make you better in all parts of your life.
Alpha Males Have Presence
But not in the sense that you just get lucky if you’re born fat or tall. You can still look like a beta male if you don’t have presence. Presence is what people turn and look at when an alpha walks in the door. It’s the larger than life figure that stands before you.
Alphas make themselves bigger and give themselves presence – it comes from body language, vocals, how they carry themselves.
Have Strong Body Language
Alphas know what it means to not only be confident but to show confidence. Its all in the body language.
- How they stand.
- How they walk.
- What they look at.
- Where there hands are.
Alpha males have alpha male body language (if you didn’t know, now you know – click on the link!).
Walk Like The Shit
Alpha males have swagger. They have a pep in their step. They don’t walk like an average man. They walk with meaning. They walk like they are in control and know where they are going.
Alpha males walk slow but with strong steps. Unlike a beta male who just walks fast or uses a walk to get from point A to point B, an alpha male knows his walk can make him stand out.
Alpha males understand something many other people do not, which is that the alpha is always in a powerful position.
What does this mean?
It means an alpha male knows where to stand and be seated to be in a powerful position. Ever wonder why the head of the table sits at the head of the table? Or a leader sits in the middle of a table? Alpha males do. They also know where to stand in a group setting to be in control.
Alpha males not only know where to sit and stand but they understand that to be taken seriously and be in a dominant position, they need to be closest to resources that other people want.
Alpha males take control. They are dominant. They tell people what to do. They are direct. They take over situations when necessary. Alpha males are seen as powerful. They are the king of the mountain.
Alpha males are risk takers. They don’t stay within their comfort zone. This is why they are seen as elite.
Alpha males know that in order to have something they don’t have, they need to go get it. People always wonder why someone has something they don’t have. Is it luck? Was it given to them? Not necessarily. Sometimes it’s called, just being alpha.
Alpha Males Get The Girl
While beta males are oogling and gaga-ing over girls or making excuses about why they aren’t going to talk to her. An Alpha male steps up and gets the girl. Alphas are not afraid to express their sexuality. They understand their role as a man. They get the girl. And if they don’t get the girl, they’ll try again.
Vocal and Loud
Alpha males have solid voices. It could be deep, it could not be. But it usually is deep. All that matters is that when they talk, they are heard.
Alphas not only talk loud enough for everyone to hear them but they talk because they know what they are talking about. If an alpha male has something to say, he will say it.
Strong Eye Contact
Alpha males are not afraid to look other people in the eyes. They are not afraid to look at people in general.
They don’t hide the fact that they are looking at someone like a beta male does. Alphas understand that looking someone in the eyes shows confidence and dominance.
Alpha males know the right amount of eye contact to use and how to use it correctly.
Aren’t Afraid To Get Physical
Alphas are okay with touching. This can be as simple as a pat on the back, a firm hand shake or a chest bump (yea I said it).
But even more so, alpha males are very comfortable getting physical with the opposite sex. They are willing to show how they feel about others through touch. Alphas know their limits with physical contact but are not afraid to express themselves with it.
Calm Under Pressure
Alphas don’t over react or get emotional. Even if they have concerns or are freaking out, they rarely show weakness to others. They’ll put on a good front.
For the most part, alpha males will remain calm and rational in all situations. They understand that a leader does not show weakness.
Know How To Dress
Looking the part of an alpha male is important. Fashion plays an important role in perception.
If you dress like a clown, it’s likely you won’t get the respect you deserve as an alpha male. Alpha males understand their audience and what appeals to them. Then create a style based on that.
Take an interest in fashion, it separates the men from the boys.
You are what you eat. You are what you lift. You are what you feel. Alpha males know being in shape can make your life a lot easier.
People, including women, are attracted to a physically fit man. They like a man that is strong and can protect them. It’s never too late to start. Get in shape. Be fit. You’ll be seen as more masculine and physically dominating.
Alpha males rarely get emotional like beta males.
Beta males complain about life not being fair, whine about petty things, snap at people when they don’t get their way, and run away or back down when confronted by someone else.
- Alpha males are level minded and stick to their convictions when challenged.
- If something doesn’t go right, Alpha males move on. They try again. If someone doesn’t like them. They don’t care. It’s a part of life.
Learn to be non-reactive. Most of the things you encounter in life are not that big of a deal.
Do Not Need External Validation
Alpha males are not out to get approval from others.
They live in their own world and have their own ideas of right and wrong. They do what makes them happy, not what makes other people happy. Happiness comes from within, not from others. Once you learn and accept this, your life will be more alpha.
Not Afraid to Stand Out
Alphas are okay being different. This means dressing how you want to dress. Saying what you want to say. Doing what you want to do.
Alphas do not follow the herd mentality of having to fit in. They aren’t afraid to rock the boat. Alphas do what they want because they can. And so can you.
Alpha males have the power to say no. Beta males are afraid of the consequences of saying no. Having the power to say no is one of the most alpha things you can do for yourself.
Do Not Try To Be Everyone’s Friend
There’s truth to the saying “you can’t make everyone happy.” If you’re out to be everyone’s friend it will be hard to be a leader or an alpha male. Alphas do what’s right and sometimes that involves making tough decisions that some people are not happy with.
Above all else, alpha males don’t give up. They work hard. They continue to try until they succeed.
When the tough gets going, so does an alpha male.
An alpha male has thick skin and understands that pain is temporary and glory is forever.
By building a solid framework to work off of, you can become alpha. Don’t only read the characteristics of an alpha male but find out what you need to work on and improve on that.
You might have more to work on than others. It doesn’t matter where you start, it’s where you finish.
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