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It seems so simple.

You want to be an alpha male. So you read up on being an alpha male. And you think that’s it. You’re alpha!

Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way.

A lot of guys understand what it takes to be an alpha male. But they ignore or overlook the simple things that take you from average to alpha.

How do you avoid the same fate as many other men? What can you do to be alpha?


Learn body language from someone that knows alpha male body language. Not some one that looks like shit or has never been alpha in their life!

We’ve compiled a list of body language tips to help you be the alpha male you want to be. Make these simple adjustments to your body language and you’ll separate yourself from the masses of beta males.

If you want to set yourself apart from average, learn and master alpha male body language.

Very few men consciously think about their body language or educate themselves on dominant, powerful, masculine body language. Just knowing puts you at an advantage to be alpha.

The great thing about alpha male body language is that it is something that can be learned and mastered. Once you start incorporating alpha male body language into your life you will:

  • Feel better about yourself
  • People will look at you different
  • You will get more respect
  • You will be seen as more confident and attractive.

What is Alpha Male Body Language

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Dominant body language is more than just about how you stand. Here at To Be Alpha, we believe strong alpha body language is more about how you live your life and incorporates a lot of minor pieces that all add up to create a confidence, strong, attractive individual.

The core of alpha body language includes the following:

  • Eye contact
  • Facial expressions
  • Head Positioning
  • Posture
  • How You Stand
  • Where you put your hands
  • Presence
  • The Way You Sit
  • How You Shake Hands

Advanced body language should also include voice tone and other subtleties that help create a dynamic individual. Here, we’ll just focus on the fundamentals.

What To Keep In Mind

To those that have strong alpha male body language, it’s simple and easy. But those that don’t have good body language it’s actually complicated and can be frustrating to change. Keep this in mind as you work through changing your body language.

If you have questions or are having trouble, ask for help.

Fundamental Alpha Male Body Language

Eye Contact

Eye contact is not only about looking someone in the eyes. It is about looking at anything you want in general. Being a confident alpha male means not being afraid of looking at people or things they are interested in.

Some of you guys are going to already know how important eye contact is. But keep in mind that there are very few people that recognize their eye contact is beta or weak. This is why it is important to discuss.

Beta males are afraid of confrontation and afraid of “getting caught” staring. Guys that have weak eye contact try to steal a peak but looking out of the corner of their eyes or look away when someone looks back at them. Don’t be beta like this.

Alpha male eye contact is all about showing confidence and interest. If you want to be alpha,  you need to be comfortable looking people in the eyes when you are talking to them, when you are listening and just in general. Don’t be afraid to look other men in the eyes and don’t be afraid to look other women in the eyes.

Alpha males know that good eye contact conveys interest and confidence. In order to be in a dominant position with eye contact, don’t break eye contact first when looking at someone. The person that breaks eye contact first becomes more submissive than the individual that holds eye contact.

Facial Expressions

A smile goes a long way, and so does a stern look. Being able to speak without saying anything is pretty alpha. But it can also be beta. If your goal is to be alpha, you never want someone to view you as weak or insecure, even with your facial expressions.


  • Smile when you meet someone new or greet someone – to come off as friendly and inviting
  • Look interested and nod once in awhile when someone is talking to you – to show you are interested
  • Look serious when you need to be serious.


  • Look confused or scared – you’ll come off as weak and people will take advantage of your uncertainty
  • Don’t look like a dear staring at headlights with wide eyes – you’ll look like you just got caught or are guilty of something
  • Fake a smile – it will look disengenious and you’ll come off as fake

Head Positioning

There isn’t a big discussion on head positioning. All the mainstream advice provided on alpha male body language just tells you to not look down, but look up. What does that even mean??

Here are some simple alpha male head positioning tips:

  • Don’t look up like your lost.
  • Don’t look down like you’re a loser.
  • Tilt your head if you want to look interested or curious.
  • Look forward or keep your head straight forward (you can turn side to side) when you want to give off a dominant vibe.


Alpha posture is pretty basic for a lot of people. “Stand up straight” they say. And yes this is correct, but there’s more to it.

Not only is it necessary to stand up straight but stand up tall. What does this mean? Well a lot of beta males with poor body language will try to stand up straight but they fail at it because they don’t have the fundamentals or know how.

Let’st start from the legs up. Your legs need to be straight and fully extended. None of this knee bent bullshit or having lazy legs.

Now your back and spine. A lot of guys that seem to lack confidence or have good posture are hunched over (leaning forward). You want to reverse this and get your back to make a mini backward’s C shape. This extends all the way from your lower back to your upper back. Your chest will puff out a little and you will stand more upright.

Lastly, we need to get your shoulders right. You want to expand your shoulders so you make yourself wider. This also helps with pushing your chest out.

Let me note here that you don’t want to exaggerate this alpha posture. Don’t go crazy pushing your chest out or making an insane backwards c on your lower spine. I once helped a guy out and he did this and it just showed what an idiot he was. No offense. I understand it takes time and knowledge, but don’t be like him.

Where You Put Your Hands

Another little secret to alpha male body language includes your hands. Where you put them matters.

Contrary to popular belief, there are a lot of misconceptions with your hands. Your hands alone do not convey much, but combined with other body language such as facial expressions, posture, or head positioning, they can make you look negative, insecure and shy.

Hands to your side is always a good bet. They show you’re relaxed and open.

Hands in your pocket are actually okay. Although many people will say never put your hands in your pocket because it looks like you’re hiding something, they are wrong. If you combine hands in your pocket plus negative body language then yes this is poor form.

Folding your arms around your chest is mostly seen as negative and closed body language. For the most part this is true, but when you’re thinking or just waiting around, it’s okay to use. There are other times that you can fold your arms across your chest with one hand on your chin which is used for thinking.

If there’s one thing to take away from your hands, it is that if you are still exhibiting confident body language, your hands can do what they want. If you are using poor negative beta body language then your hands can convey that you are a beta male and the characteristics associated with a beta.


When’s the last time you thought to yourself, “I wonder if anyone notices me.” This is where presence comes in.

Presence is the ability to make yourself larger than you are. You take up space. When you walk into a room, people notice.

  • Minor adjustments can gave you presence such as standing with your legs wider apart (shoulder width).
  • Don’t make yourself small when you’re around other people like you are trying to make room for others.
  • Enter a room and stop and look around for a second or two before you go to your end destination
  • Be big, get wide. Put your hands on your hips or put them around other people so people know “you’re there”.

Developing presence might take some time. For many people, they just go through life unnoticed. But this isn’t alpha. You want people to notice you. You want people to take note of who you are.

Your Walk

The way you walk matters. If you never thought about how you walk or even evaluated it, you may want to.

  • An alpha male walks in slow long strides. The reason for this is because he is rarely in a rush. People wait for him to start meetings and such. Just think about your world leaders, do you think they are in a rush or do they know that people will wait for them?

Walk with a purpose. You want to walk like you’re the most important man in the world – not just in the corporate world but in general.

  • Beta males on the other hand walk in quick short steps, always in a hurry to get from point A to point B. They don’t want to keep people waiting.

Please note that even if you are alpha or trying to be alpha, if you are in a rush (because there are times this happens) don’t be an idiot and think you should just walk slow. There are always exceptions to the rule.

The Way You Sit

There are a number of ways to sit, some more alpha than others. Just as a general guide, bigger and wider is always better.

Sit with your legs open and sit upright. If you decide to put your leg on top of another it should always be ankle over knee and not knee over knee (this is too feminine). Also don’t sit with your legs too close together as this again, limits your presence.

Think about how a King sits, and mimic this style of sitting.

How You Shake Hands

You will shake many hands throughout your life and probably even more if you are living the life of an alpha male. Everyone wants to know you, everyone will want to meet you and be your friend.

Shaking hands is more than just grabbing someone’s hand and moving it up and down while exchanging pleasantries.

The way you shake hands can give off a good impression of a dominant and powerful alpha male or you can come off as a submissive beta male that lacks authority and power. Focus on creating a great first impression by shaking hands the alpha way.

The alpha way to shake hands is to:

  • Extend your hand out while looking someone in the eyes and grabbing their hand firmly (this does not mean squeeze someone’s hand as hard as you can)
  • Shake it up and down 3 times (one time up and down, counts as 1)
  • While shaking and looking the person in the eyes, smile and say their name and “nice to meet you..”, “good to see you again…”, “how are you?…” or some other pleasantry

That my friend is alpha.

Don’t soft grab someone’s hand or accidentally mis-grab someone’s hand so you don’t have a firm hold. The art of shaking hands is essential if you want to come off as alpha when you greet someone.

Thoughts on Alpha


The fundamental body language tips for being alpha are in no particular order. None are more important than the others. Keep in mind that each type of body language is just one piece of the puzzle. In order to give off a dominant, confident and powerful impression as an alpha male you want to be the complete package.

Do you know of any other body language tips that might be helpful? If so, feel free to share them.

To learn more about Alpha Male Body Language – check out our additional resources below

The Life of A Beta Male (in an image)

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