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A common question To Be Alpha gets is “What is the difference between an alpha and beta male?”

To a lot of people that don’t know the characteristics of an alpha male or the traits of a beta male, they assume an alpha male is just a jock or a jerk. We discuss this in  the myth of the alpha male.

There’s nothing wrong with being a beta male if you are happy. No one needs to be an alpha male just as no one needs to be a beta male – it’s a choice. However, we’re going to show the pros and cons of being alpha vs beta.

Contrary to popular believe, there are some pros of being beta. This isn’t a bias website that believes every man (or women) needs to be a cookie cutter alpha male.

The Difference Between Alpha and Beta Males

Alpha Males Are:

Confident – alpha males tend to think very highly of themselves. They aren’t always right or perfect, but they always believe in their own ability and themselves no matter what.

Not Embarrassed Easily – alpha males don’t worry too much about other people’s opinions. If they did they would never speak up, do what they want, or go against social norms.

Masculine – alpha males are men. They come in all shapes and sizes but have common traits: leaders, dominant personalities, comfortable around the opposite sex, etc.

Take What He Wants Attitude – alpha males are not jerks or rude but they believe they are entitled, this allows them to do things and request things an ordinary person would not.

Direct and Honest – alpha males are not afraid to speak their mind. If they need something, they will tell you. They don’t hide behind a lot of fluff when they are talking to you. They tell you things you might not want to hear.

Social – alpha males have a dynamic personality that allow them to connect with all types of people.

Take Chances – alpha males are risk takers (big or small). They aren’t afraid to fail because they know that success comes from taking chances.

Beta Males Are

Nice guys – beta males are some of the nicest people you will ever meet. They help you when you need help, they are courteous and pleasant to be around.

May Question Their Ability – beta males lack the confidence alpha males have. There are times that beta males will second guess themselves or make excuses to not do something even though they are fully capable. They just don’t always realize their potential.

Worry About What Others Think – beta males are usually restricted in life because they care too much about what other people think. This includes family, friends and strangers. These external factors limit what a beta male does and the choices he makes in life.

Puts The Needs of Others First – this isn’t a bad thing, but beta males put the needs of others ahead of their own. They are very giving people and unselfish.

Secretive – beta males don’t always make their desires known to others. Beta males have secrets they keep to themselves including their career aspirations, dreams, and sexual desires. This is usually due to not wanting to be judged by others and may be due to lack of self-confidence.

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Common Misconceptions

Alpha vs. Beta Males – who dresses better?

There’s an idea out there that all beta males don’t know how to dress. And I want to debunk this myth.

Although there are plenty of men that do not know how to dress or have any sense of style whatsoever, there are also many men that understand fashion very well. So don’t think you need to overhaul your style if you have beta male traits – it’s not always the case.

Alpha vs. Beta males – Who makes more money?

Beta males are considered hard workers. Alpha males are considered leaders.

Money does not make you alpha or beta. But it should be noted that the idea that hard work is how you get ahead in life isn’t the smartest way to think. Smart work and being driven is more likely to advance you in life than just trying to work hard to prove yourself to others.

Alpha males are competitive individuals and  are driven individuals. They are more likely to go after what they want than a beta male. Does this make their wealthier in the long run? Maybe.

Alpha vs. Beta males – Who is happier?

Both beta and alpha males can be happy. It’s the struggling alpha or the struggling beta male that is unhappy. It’s up to you if you want to be happy or not. It doesn’t matter if you’re alpha or beta.

Alpha vs. Beta males – Are all beta males pushovers?

Far from it. Beta males might not speak their mind or talk back often but this doesn’t mean they will just be bullied or do as they are told. They fight back in their own ways such as ignoring people, doing poor work, or lashing out.

Alpha vs. beta males – Do alpha males ever show emotions?

Yes. Alpha males are human beings just like beta males and everyone else in this world. There’s a misconception that alpha males are super human or have an “I don’t give a damn” attitude. This isn’t the case.

Which is Better – Alpha or Beta Males?

It’s a personal choice. No one in this world should tell you what you want to be. If you are unhappy with who you are or what you have in your life, then you should make some changes or figure out a game plan.

Only you know what you want to be.


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