The quest to be alpha is no small feat. Many people don’t even try because it’s too difficult or they just give up and go back to their old ways.
The secret on how to be alpha is not difficult. People just get a bunch of different information and confuse themselves as to what really makes an alpha male.
Real Tips On How To Be Alpha
1. Be Positive. Believe in yourself.
It’s all starts with the mind. If you don’t believe in yourself, who else will? It’s going to always be an uphill battle if you don’t trust yourself and your ability.
In general, it’s always a good idea to be positive and optimistic. It will make you and other people feel better. But more generally, you shouldn’t go around talking behind people’s back or being the little beta that complains. No one really cares about your problems so don’t bring people down with them.
Being alpha isn’t only about you. It’s about making yourself and other people better. Never forget that.
2. Be Social. Smile, talk to strangers, be charming and be a good flirt.
Being able to connect with others is probably one of the most alpha things you can do. If you don’t know how to socialize with others and form relationships with others, you’re going to have a tough time making friends and building a network.
Look friendly. Learn how to converse and listen. By sympathetic and learn empathetic listening. Charm always wins people over.
3. Tell People What You Want. Be direct and honest.
Too many people are afraid to hurt other people’s feelings or come off as rude. What they end up doing is wasting people’s time adding a lot of fluff to what they are saying and it just annoys people.
If you want something, ask for it. If you need something, say it. People will respect you more and you’ll definitely look alpha if you are direct.
4. Know How to Defend Yourself.
Knowing is half the battle. I’m not telling you to go out and get in fights. I’m telling you to know how to defend yourself because it will help you mentally.
Just knowing that if you had to defend and protect yourself is very powerful. It will allow you to enter many different situations and feel comfortable and less fearful. That is alpha.
5. Have Strong Body Language.
Pay attention to your posture, eye contact, and facial expressions. Your body language not only makes you feel a certain way about yourself but it makes others perceive you differently too.
You want to make sure your body language is on point so you look confident, dominant and like a leader.
6. Dress Like You Give a Damn.
Clothes are not just clothes. Clothes give us an identity. They make us look good (or bad). They can be casual, fancy, professional, clean and dirty.
You need to always dress to impress. You never know who you’re going to meet or who you’re going to run into. You want to make sure you’re not only comfortable but you need to make sure your clothes make you look good and people stereotype you as attractive, important and stylish.
7. Work Out. Get in shape and feel good about yourself.
At some point in your life you may get fat and flabby because you’re old and you just don’t care any more. But I know you guys are still young and want to look good. In order to do that, you need to put in the work.
Go to the gym, go out and play some sports. Do physical activities. You’ll feel better about yourself, you’ll be healthier and you’ll boost your testosterone levels.
8. Be Financially Stable.
I’m not saying you need to be super rich to be alpha. I’m saying you need to be financially independent. This means being able to take care of yourself, pay your bills, buy what you want, and not stress out about your financial situation.
Lots of guys that want to be alpha forget how important it is to have money in the bank. They are short sighted and only think about what they want tomorrow, not what they want for the rest of their life.
You want to be alpha for the rest of your life, right? It’s going to be hard to be alpha when you’re asking people if you can borrow money.
9. Stop Caring About What Other People Think.
It’s harder to do than to say but you really should do what you want to do and not care what other people think. It’s your life. And I can tell you that you will feel 1000% better about yourself if you stop caring what other people think about you.
Do what you want. You don’t owe anyone anything. You will be happier. You’ll be bolder. And I have a good feeling you will get what you want in life if you stop caring so much.
10. Be A Leader. Take control of situations.
So many people in this world are followers. You might not think you’re one, but if you’re waiting for someone to tell you what to do or you’re always asking other’s if you’re doing things right, you are not in control.
You need to take control of situations and lead. Tell people what to do (or make suggestions). Don’t just wait for people to order you around. You don’t get ahead by being a follower. And you are never the alpha male if you are not a leader.
Some of you might not be in the position to be the ultimate leader (say of a company or a head coach or something), but it doesn’t mean you can begin to be a leader and wait for your chance to be the man.