Don’t Be So Nice
If you are wondering why you aren’t getting what you want in life, it might be, because you’re too nice.
This isn’t everyone. But it might be you.
- If you do too much for others.
- If you go out of your way.
- If you put other people’s needs in front of your own.
- If you go above and beyond.
- If you sacrifice more than others
- If you always volunteer.
- If you think you are a nice guy/girl.
- If wonder why other’s don’t do the same things that you do for them.
- If you wonder why no one appreciates all that you do for them.
- If you end up with the short end of the stick most of the time.
- If you feel disrespected even after all that you have done.
It is likely, you are too nice. And this isn’t going to help you. Now or ever.
It’s one thing to be nice. It’s great to help when you can. But if you are always doing something for someone else and you hope it will lead to something that benefits you. You are expecting too much and you are doing too much.
Stop being so nice.
Why?
You’re nice, why would you stop. Right? Sounds foolish.
But no. It’s not.
Being nice and getting taken advantage of. Whether they do it, or you feel that way. What is so great about that?
You already know how it feels. So why do you continue to do things that don’t benefit you?
This is your life. And you are letting people walk all over you. If you want to continue down this path, and you think people will magically change one day for you. Then you probably shouldn’t be here.
People rarely change. And if they do, it won’t be, because you were so nice to them that now they owe you to be different. People change when they no longer want to be who they are. If someone gets everything for nothing, do you think they are going to change? Be honest with yourself when you answer that.
The only person that can change is you. You can put yourself first. You can start being Alpha. Make choices that allow you to do what you want, when you want, for whom you want. And always remember, no one owe’s you anything except for money if you lent it to someone.
If you are hoping to collect on your nice gestures or bending over backwards. You may end up angry and frustrated. Annoyed and in a cycle of toxic behavior that you bring upon yourself.
Alpha up. Time to stop blaming other people for the things you choose to do for them. Start doing them for you. And yes, even if it affects them. Because it also affects you.
Be honest. Be Alpha. Be nice, but to yourself first. Let’s go.
