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There is no better time than now to take control of your life. Whether you are ready or not…is a decision only you can make. I think we are never fully ready, so sometimes you just have to try.

Be Bold. Be Alpha.

The world we now live in, offers so many distractions that it is not so easy to focus.

There are so many options for your attention, and a lot of them are short form videos and content, that I often think the brain has been trained to seek out that dopamine, instead of putting in real hard work.

Discipline is doing something you may or may not enjoy, and doing it because you have to get it done.

Whether this be training, working, or for any other activity in your life. You have to put in the work and if you are not willing to make sacrifices and work hard at what you want. You might not want it bad enough.

Be Bold. Be Alpha.

If you want to learn how to be an Alpha male this page is going to list out all of the characteristics that you need to know, in order to do so.

If you are reading this, this is for you to tell yourself. This is not a book where you are thinking in third person.

• Be a leader
• Be assertive
• Have good body language
• Have goals
• Have aspirations
• Be able to hear other people’s opinions
• Be able to be non-reactive
• Have a life
• Be strong
• Be intelligent
• Be social
• Have interests and hobbies
• Be resourceful

Be bold. Be Alpha.

You are a loser.

Is that what you want to hear?

I hope not.

And that’s why, you are here.

Whether you are here because someone sent you the link to this page, or you decided to take control of your life and figure it out, the message is clear: you are here for a reason.

And so you need to make sure you know what it takes to be an alpha male.

What is an alpha male?

• Is it some some loud brash person?
• The biggest person in the room?
• Is it someone that is successful and well dresseD?
• Is it someone that exudes confidence?
• Is it someone that is has all the money, the women, and flashy things?

An Alpha Male is a lot of things, but don’t confine the definition of what an alpha male is. It’s a combination of things and the important thing is to make yourself into being as alpha as you can.

You don’t need to be the perfect Alpha male. Just get started.

• Stand up a little straighter.
• Get in shape.
• Maybe get some new clothes.
• Work on your eye contact and voice tone.
• Improve your social interactions.
• Become an attractive person, not only for relationships or social interactions but for everything.

This is how you can start to become an Alpha Male.

Be Bold. Be Alpha.

In order to get what you want, you have to know what you want. And it has to be specific.

If you keep any desire or goal too abstract and high level – it allows for too much flexibility and compromise – and you will just go whichever way the wind blows.

And there is nothing wrong with going the way the wind blows – its often easier to not resist wind – but in the case of wanting to achieve something or to improve your life or change…you often cannot go the way the wind blows.

Because comfort is easy. And comfort is what you have known. And discomfort is the resistance, the barrier, and invisible enemy that holds you back.

In order to conquer and break through these limitations and mental barriers, you want to be very specific with what you want.

It will give you a purpose.

It will give you a reason.

It will be what you think about. More than the reasons why not to, you will think why to.

This isn’t a complete strategy on how to obtain what it is you want. But it is one of the first steps that must be included in the strategy to get what you want.

I recommend knowing what your objective is before you start or before you get too far into doing things. Otherwise, you will forget what you are doing and may start questioning the purpose of all that you are doing.

Second, I do believe creating a strategy is important. You want to make sure you have a process in place – that likely won’t work exactly as planned…but you want to have something in place. So you have a step by step process to get to what it is you want to obtain.

The strategy should allow for flexibility – because life doesn’t work out according to how you always want. But this doesn’t mean you cannot get what you desire.

The reason for a strategy – that includes the beginning middle and end, is important and recommended because when you are in the thick of things…there will be times that you are ready to move through a process. But if you don’t map out what that may look like, then when things get tough or there are those limitations or any adversity, and you don’t know what to do, you may revert back to what you always have known.

You want to make sure that you are progressing and moving forward.

The best way to do that is to know what you want, and then have a strategy in place to obtain that. Then stick to the objective and when all else fails, stick to the strategy until you realize you need to modify it. But this will keep you on track and on course.

How long this takes…that is up to you.

Be Alpha. Be Bold. Keep going.

• Accept what has happened and figure it out.
• Solutions solve problems. Solutions require thinking.
• Action is more important than wondering.
• Results provide feedback.
• If the idea of failure prevents you from taking action, figure out how to overcome this.
• The best path is not the easiest path.
• Sustained outcome is the reward for the process.
• The more you do something, the more proficient you will become. This goes for right and wrong.
• Understand what your limits are. Growth usually requires breaking through them and resisting the temptation to peak at your current limits.
• The fundamentals and a strong foundation are essential.
• Any objection or criticism is not actually negative but one’s own beliefs and views. Don’t take it personal, but also do not ignore it.
• Hard work and smart work, are not the same.
• Hours doing does not mean hours improving.
• Be mindful of what you are doing.
• Be reflective.
• Opportunity’s will present themselves, every day. It is your choice to pursue them or to let them pass you by.
• Seek out what you desire. Do not wait for it to appear.
• Place yourself in situations that are beneficial to you. Remove yourself from one’s that are not.
• Learn to become comfortable in discomfort.
• The mind connects the body.
• What you feed yourself, affects what you are. Understand this in great detail. 
• Learn to be less reactive and more curious.
• Listening is more important than talking.
• Redirect, reframe, and detach.
• Knowledge and does not take years to acquire. And those that started earlier than you, do not always have more than you.
• Short cuts are only worth having if they are also smart cuts.
• Do not cheat yourself out of understanding or you may not fully understand.
• There’s always tomorrow, until there isn’t. The same for the next. Don’t get caught up on one if there is the two.
• You get to choose how your life plays out.

So many people think they know what it means to be Alpha. Other’s think it is something toxic.

By the dictionary’s definition is the first letter of the Greek alphabet and also defined as “something first”.

We don’t often use the phrase Alpha Male since Alpha is Alpha to us, but for a broader audience, in order to convey an idea, it is necessary

The truth is, Alpha is whatever you want it to be.

The same as it is with your life. It is whatever you want it to be.

To believe there is some set rule of what is Alpha and what is Beta would be conforming to ideals of the average. And we have no real desire to be average.

Average is middle of the pack. The place where people go and reminisce about the glory days or what they could have done or what they should have done. It’s where people go to live comfortable, having given up on their life dreams to surf the internet and doom scroll on social media.

But don’t get me wrong. There are a lot of people that have money, or have built something other’s envy, or have material items that other’s desire, but it doesn’t mean they are Alpha.

Truth be told, these losers are easy to spot.

Real Alpha is being who you want to be, because it’s who you want to be.

All the money. All the fancy things. All the praise. It’s external. Once it’s gone, you only have yourself.

And this is what separates the winners from the losers.

The ones that know who they are. Know what they are capable of. And do it for themselves.

They obtain what they want. They pursue what they dream. They have goals that they’ll never likely achieve but pursue endlessly. Because Alpha is first. And if you aren’t first. Are you even Alpha?

Being Alpha is about being proud of your life. It’s about having what makes you happy. It’s about being who you believe you should and could be. It’s about fulfilling your purpose in life and continuing to pursue more – because you can. There can always be enough, but there can always be more.

The worse thing you can do for yourself is to settle. You know it, and I know it. And a lot of you reading this have already settled. The good thing is, you can actually decide to strive again. It’s a personal choice.

Maybe it’s time to stop being a loser and asking what Alpha is, and just start being it.

How about it?

Be Bold. Be Alpha.

Don’t Be So Nice 

If you are wondering why you aren’t getting what you want in life, it might be, because you’re too nice.

This isn’t everyone. But it might be you.

• If you do too much for others.
• If you go out of your way.
• If you put other people’s needs in front of your own.
• If you go above and beyond.
• If you sacrifice more than others
• If you always volunteer.
• If you think you are a nice guy/girl.
• If wonder why other’s don’t do the same things that you do for them.
• If you wonder why no one appreciates all that you do for them.
• If you end up with the short end of the stick most of the time.
• If you feel disrespected even after all that you have done.

It is likely, you are too nice. And this isn’t going to help you. Now or ever.

It’s one thing to be nice. It’s great to help when you can. But if you are always doing something for someone else and you hope it will lead to something that benefits you. You are expecting too much and you are doing too much.

Stop being so nice.

Why?

You’re nice, why would you stop. Right? Sounds foolish.

But no. It’s not.

Being nice and getting taken advantage of. Whether they do it, or you feel that way. What is so great about that?

You already know how it feels. So why do you continue to do things that don’t benefit you?

This is your life. And you are letting people walk all over you. If you want to continue down this path, and you think people will magically change one day for you. Then you probably shouldn’t be here.

People rarely change. And if they do, it won’t be, because you were so nice to them that now they owe you to be different. People change when they no longer want to be who they are. If someone gets everything for nothing, do you think they are going to change? Be honest with yourself when you answer that.

The only person that can change is you. You can put yourself first. You can start being Alpha. Make choices that allow you to do what you want, when you want, for whom you want. And always remember, no one owe’s you anything except for money if you lent it to someone. 

If you are hoping to collect on your nice gestures or bending over backwards. You may end up angry and frustrated. Annoyed and in a cycle of toxic behavior that you bring upon yourself. 

Alpha up. Time to stop blaming other people for the things you choose to do for them. Start doing them for you. And yes, even if it affects them. Because it also affects you.

Be honest. Be Alpha. Be nice, but to yourself first. Let’s go.

If you want to have a better life, you need to start making some changes. This should be obvious.

Why?

Because you are doing things, that are obviously not getting you the results you want. So it’s time to audit what you are doing.

You have to be smart about this.

If you just try to do a bunch of different things, with no real strategy or plan, you will run in circles trying to figure things out. It doesn’t have to be that complicated.

• You won’t figure it out right away.
• And it will probably not be easy.
• You will struggle with the idea of doing things differently.

You are already stuck in whatever routine and choices you have, so to change that suddenly, is not easy.

For some of you, the one’s that realize that this is really the only choice there is. That is, to do things differently, you will get it. And you will likely start seeing changes more quickly. Or, you will revert back to what you have always done. If you give up after not seeing results quick enough.

You have to be prepared. This is going to take time.

This is something that you have to do on your own. And there is no set schedule. You will do what you do, for however long you want to do it. And you will start doing what you need to do, when and if you want to. 

No one can make you do anything. No one should have to. You should want to. And if you aren’t ready, then you aren’t ready. There is no pressure. This is your life.

Everything you ever wanted. Everything you ever dreamed of. Everything you ever thought you could possibly be. It really comes down to whether you really are willing to do what it takes to achieve that or not.

If you think it is easy for others. Maybe it was. Who knows. Does it really matter? They aren’t you. You are not them. And you never will be. You will be you, but you can be the best version of you.

So if you really want to start achieving what you want. Then take a look at what you do. This is easier said than done.

You might say you wake up, you do this and you do that. And all you need to do is X Y and Z. And yea, maybe. Maybe that’s all you need. So try it out. And see what happens.

Commit to it for more than a day. More than 3 days. More than a week. Commit to it for 3 weeks. Or a month. And then see. 

The thing is, if you add too many changes all at once, it will be a shock to your system. Maybe that’s a good thing. But make sure you don’t overwhelm yourself and you don’t overextend yourself.

Start with the right amount of change. Or try to do some things a little differently. But make sure it’s not easy. Because if its too easy, then you aren’t really doing much. And the amount of change you are hoping for, and the results are going to be minimal.

I don’t know what you want to change. I don’t really care. You should care. Because it should be important to you. If you care what I think, or what anyone else thinks, then you might be wasting your time. 

It’s good to have support and encouragement. But if you are seeking that out in order to change. Then you are asking for permission. You are wanting someone to tell you everything is going to be okay. Don’t do that to yourself.

Maybe you’re scared. Maybe you’re uncertain. Maybe you don’t know where to start. Or don’t know what to do. 

And if that’s the case. Then keep reading our articles to figure out how to bypass the learning process to really get to the heart of figuring out what to do, how to do it, and to start getting after it.

This isn’t about being Alpha. It’s about being your best. It’s about having the courage to go for what you want and making your life something you are proud of. This isn’t some temporary thing where you get some small prize. It’s about being your best, day in and day out. This means you do what you need to do, because you lead by example.

It won’t be easy. Like I said. And you will probably fail. You probably will have doubts. But nothing is easy. Everything just becomes easier. Remember that.

Figure out who you are and what you do. And then start realizing that those things have gotten you where you are today. From there, figure out what you have to replace to get you to where you want to be. It’s not about changing your entire life. There are some good and some not so good things with many of us. It’s about replacing the things holding you back, with the things that will get you ahead.

Be Bold. Figure it out. Become Alpha. 

They often say “If there is a will, there is a way.”

Do you have what it takes to achieve what you want?

You can only control what you can control. Whether you get what you want is not always in your hands but you will get what you deserve.

Results come from consistent actions, effort and patience. It also requires doing the hard work – which isn’t always easy to know what that is or why this is so.

Think about this for awhile without any distractions and I think you will understand.

Be Bold. Be Alpha.